Childcare, What do you do.

Andrew and I are struggling on how to handle going to the babysitter. Do you bribe them everyday not to throw a fit, do you let them take a toy, do you just leave them a couple of hours so they won't have to take a nap while there? Since school has started back Andrew has started going to a new babysitter. At first he was scared because he didn't know anyone but then he said he liked it. That was the first week it has gone down hill from there. The second week I had to leave him screaming one day and just crying another. That makes a mom feel really bad. Everyday he asks me if he is going to have to take a nap there. He still takes naps when he is here at home with me but for some reason he really does not want to have to at the babysitter's house. This week he only had to stay one day all day the rest of the days were only half days so we didn't have to deal with the napping issue. Today when I picked him up after staying all day he had not taken a nap. That makes everyone miserable in the evening. The babysitter mentioned that maybe he shouldn't bring his own toys because they never seem to be able to keep up with them by the end of the day. I thought the toys were helping him feel a little more secure so that the crying would not be so bad. Andrew says they only have girl toys at the babysitters house. What I would give to have parents that live close or a relative that would want to keep my child during the week while I worked. I need God to provide the perfect babysitter.